How to talk to your family about vaccination

The Awhi Ngā Mātua community of parents of immune compromised and medically fragile children has come up with scripts to help to have conversations about vaccination. We wanted to share these to help other families.

Our biggest tip from our community is to be clear and direct – don’t answer around the question. Just ask: “Have you had your vaccination?” or “Are you planning on getting vaccinated?”

We suggest a very simple line in the sand: “I’m sure you understand that keeping our household safe is crucial for our child, so we’re requesting that everyone who comes to our house is vaccinated.”

If your family member is unvaccinated set a boundary.

“Unfortunately, we need to ensure that everyone who comes into our home is vaccinated. I’m sure you understand that keeping our household safe is our highest priority. As soon as you’re vaccinated, we’d love to have you over. We will be so grateful for you protecting our child as well as your family and the community.”

Offer options

“Shall we organise a video call?”

“We look forward to seeing you when you’re vaccinated.”

“Let’s talk on the phone until we can be together when you’re vaccinated.”

“We hope by our [next family event] you’ll be vaccinated and we can be together.”

Holding Firm

“I understand that you’re disappointed you won’t see us for family time, we’re disappointed too. Let me know once you’ve booked your vaccination, I’ll come hold your hand!”

“I’m not going to debate this with you.”

“My highest priority is keeping our household safe.”

“I know masks aren’t the most comfortable or flattering things in the world, and I don’t like needles either! But I figure both of those things are worth doing to keep our children safe.”

“I’m disappointed that you’re not able to set aside your discomfort to ensure our child’s safety. Let me know if you change your mind.”

“I’m afraid that for our whānau, even outside picnics are too risky if you are not vaccinated.”

Tam Clemerson

I'm Tam Clemerson. I am a queer neurodivergent parent. I grew up in Wellington and did my dash in the public service before moving into union advocacy. I am currently studying Law at Vic Uni and spend my time juggling lectures and readings with swimming lessons and football games.