How do I help my FASD child at school?

Foetal alcohol spectrum disorder (FASD) can make mainstream schooling can be challenging.

Foetal alcohol spectrum disorder (FASD) is a diagnostic term for a neurodevelopmental disorder caused by exposure to alcohol before birth.

Dubbed the invisible disorder, FASD is not widely understood in the New Zealand education sector, or even amongst the general public.

FASD causes significant damage to a child’s brain that can affect their ability to learn, regulate their behaviour and understand consequences. Yet often, without an official diagnosis, children are presumed to be the same as their neurotypical peers and are punished for behaviours that are beyond their control.

Even when you do have an official diagnosis of FASD, teachers are not always up-to-speed with appropriate learning strategies and support that will allow children to thrive and develop to the best of their abilities.

It falls to parents, therefore, to be their child’s FASD advocate from the moment they set foot in school, or from when they receive a diagnosis.

In Aotearoa, an excellent website has been set up to support parents of children with FASD. FASD-CAN (Care Action Network) has a lot of resources on how to navigate your child’s schooling journey.

Hey Teacher - An A4 downloadable pdf providing FASD facts, tips and strategies for your child’s teacher.

Think Ahead – How to Advocate for your Child at School, also downloadable.

About your child – printable sheet for teachers.

These resources are a great starting point, but it will probably pay to be the squeaky wheel that gets your child’s needs met. Make sure there is an ongoing dialogue with your child’s teachers, teacher aides and SENCO teacher.

Here are some key concepts that you, as parents, can reinforce:

• My child struggles to learn from consequences. This means that punishments such as the removal of privileges and reprimands will not change their behaviour.
• Teaching strategies that work for neurotypical children will not work for my child. My child will need an individual education plan with my input on their strengths, challenges and interests.
• Learning for a child with FASD is inconsistent – what my child knows one day, they will not know the next. This is not deliberate, it is simply beyond their control and caused by damage to their brain.
• Please don’t label my child as wilful, defiant, or naughty. Going to school every day is a challenge for them and they are doing their best in an environment that often makes them anxious and frightened.
• Children with FASD sometimes have a ‘cloak of competence’, this means they appear to have a higher level of comprehension than they possess, particularly with language.
• Teachers need to readjust their expectations of what my child can learn. My child will learn best with repetition, structure, fun and kindness.
• Visual reinforcements often work well with children with FASD, along with games, puzzles and technology. Especially when they key into my child’s special interests.
• My child is easily overwhelmed. It will help if you break up study time with physical activity. Also allow them to go to a designated space to de-stress.
• Children with FASD can struggle to understand abstract concepts. Use simple concrete language, and when giving instructions, only give one instruction at a time.

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, your child will come to grief within the schooling system and will face the possibility of being ‘stood down’ or excluded from school. Once again, FASD-CAN has excellent advice on this topic, and provides guidance on how you can challenge a school’s decision to exclude your child.

It may also be that your child’s current school is no longer suitable to meet their learning needs. You may choose to homeschool them or place them in a different school. But children with disabilities should never have to go through the punitive experience of being excluded.

We all have a role in promoting empathy and understanding for the disorder as much as it is in our power to do. The more honest and open you are about the condition with everyone who is in your child’s life, the more support they are likely to receive.

As one FASD researcher reminds us, we should never lose sight of the ‘courage, fortitude and optimism required from such a child (with FASD) each morning as they get ready for school. They know the day will be confusing, that their experience of it will include gaps and sensory overload . . . that they will be told off for things beyond their control . . .And yet they get themselves ready to the best of their ability and set out to live another day in their bewildering, overwhelming and often frightening reality’ (C. Carel:2016).

For more on FASD, see our other panui on Awhi Nga Matua. You might also like to check out the resources below which include useful websites, online interactive games, and books and articles from the IHC Library, many of which can be read online. Or contact the IHC library directly to have a chat about what you need on 0800 442 442 or email: librarian@ihc.org.nz.

Resources for kids

Oli and the pink bicycle :

Oli and the pink bicycle :

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"It's Oli's seventh...

Being you is enough :

Being you is enough :

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Fetal alcohol spectrum disorder

Fetal alcohol spectrum disorder

"An estimated 40,000 children are born with a Fetal Alcohol...

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The Way I am is Different :

The Way I am is Different :

"In this children's book, a boy with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum...

"In this children's book, a...

Fidget! /

Fidget! /

"Strawberry and Cracker are twins with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome who...

"Strawberry and Cracker are...

The twins learn of their disorder /

The twins learn of their disorder /

"The Twins Learn of Their Disorder is one in the Strawberry &...

"The Twins Learn of Their...

The Twins' Sensory Smarts /

The Twins' Sensory Smarts /

"Strawberry & Cracker are twins with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)...

"Strawberry & Cracker are...

Having a disability /

Having a disability /

"An inclusive and accessible picture book for children that...

"An inclusive and...

Meryl Richards

I’m Meryl Richards. What a pleasure it’s been to join the Awhi team. I get to spend my days researching information that supports me as a parent, and sometimes challenges me to rethink what I thought I knew. My hope is that it will be useful to you too. I live in Kapiti with my partner and two teenage boys, and spend as much time as possible in the surrounding bush and at the beach.